Thanks to my amazing little sister, I was somewhat recently introduced to an online community called the Happy Wives Club. Here’s a little information from their website:
“Wives are miserable. Marriages usually fail. Husbands eventually cheat. This is what so many have come to believe. But this is not everyone’s reality. It is certainly not mine. I am a happy wife. I love being married. I adore my husband. And I am not an anomaly.
Yes, there are some unhappy wives, marriages that end in divorce and husbands who are unfaithful. But are they the majority? We don’t believe they are and we’re setting out to prove it.
We’re searching for at least1 million happy wives all over the world. Those like us who enjoy being a wife, absolutely adore their husband and are still head-over-heels in love.”
I was so happy to find a place that feels the same way I do. I hear a lot of negative in the media and in real life about marriage but unlike all of those stereotypes, I love my husband and want to spend as much time as humanly possible with him.
Fawn, who runs the site, has inspired all of us to write a few things that we love about our husbands. Here my list (or at least the start of one):
My husband and our marriage make me feel so incredibly safe & secure:
There is nothing more comforting to me than being married to Stephen. When you’re dating, there’s always a chance that you could break up. But in marriage, there is no fear about that. I know that Stephen and I will be married for the rest of our lives. We’re wholly committed to each other, our families and our future. And with this, I no longer have to worry about so many of the big things in life. I don’t have to worry about money. Stephen is an excellent provider for our little family and I know he would do anything necessary to support our family. I don’t have to worry about getting sick or injured because I know he will take excellent care of me. There is nothing in life that gives me peace of mind like being married to Stephen.
He understands my love language and embraces it:
My love language is most definitely physical touch (quality time is a close second). In the words of Audrey Hepburn, “I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.” Stephen knows that the surest way to make me feel loved is to give me physical affection. I’m not talking offensive levels of PDA. But, I do need a constant supply of hugs, kisses and hand holding. It makes me feel loved, fulfilled and wanted. I’m very lucky that I have a husband who seems to enjoy cuddling almost as much as I do.
He encourages me in everything that I want to try:
Stephen believes in me often times more than I believe in myself. Every new thing that I try to pursue Stephen is right there to tell me that I can do it. He tries to hold me accountable to my goals as much as he can and is always willing to join in if it will help. As iron sharpens iron…
He lets me take care of him:
Something very important to me is being able to take care of people. Maybe this is a large part of why I work with children. Being able to serve my husband and take care of his basic needs by providing him with home cooked, healthy (well, not ALWAYS) meals, doing his laundry (not that I actually enjoy laundry but it’s something that I can do for him) and making our house feel like a home. He hardly gets sick but I do love to take care of him when he’s not feeling well or to give him massages when he’s sore.
He makes me laugh more than anyone:
I have seriously laughed to the point of crying so many times in our relationship. We have a similar sense of humor and because we have so many shared interests, we can make jokes about so many things. Those moments when we’re both in tears because of something silly make me so grateful to be married to my best friend.
I know I’m weird and have a lot of “quirks,” but he loves me anyway:
This one is kind of self explanatory. He accepts me exactly as I am.
He is undoubtedly the most lovable person I have ever encountered:
I adore his quirks too. They are just so endearing. He is the person I love spending time with the most out of anyone because I am constantly given more reasons to love him just by being with him.
Let’s be honest, he is one good looking man.
By marrying Stephen I gained another family:
I couldn’t have married into a better family. I have three more siblings now and parents-in-law who are awesome. They raised Stephen to be an incredible man and are a wonderful example of Godly marriage (31 years and going strong!). I am blessed to have more people speaking into my life in addition to my biological family who are seeking after God’s will and want only the best for me, Stephen and our marriage.
This list could go on and on. And maybe it will. We’ll see where this goes because I’m sure that I could add to this list daily! If you’ve been faithfully reading my Thankful Thursdays posts, you’ve noticed that at least one thing each week that I’m thankful for is something Stephen-related 🙂